Picky Picky Picky!

I've been told quite a few times that my standards are impossibly high and I will never meet the guy who matches them. Naturally I was told that by guys who didn't meet my "impossibly high" standards. :-) Of course, since they are my standards I think they are perfectly reasonable.

I'm no Halle Berry but I am at least reasonably attractive (when I try). I'm looking for a guy who is reasonably attractive to me. Of course that's all relative because we all have different ideas of what is and isn't attractive. This is gonna sound like typical cliche' woman talk but for me "attractive" isn't just about looks. It's about personality too. People often look at me funny when I say I find John Goodman attractive until I explain that it's because of the character (Dan Connor) he played on the "Roseanne" show. I'd love to have a man like that! Well... like that except in a wheelchair. :-)

I am not career obsessed but, like most Americans, work is important to me. I am looking for a man who is employed full time just like I am. This point is a HUGE stumbling block in a community where unemployment and under employment are the norms. I'm not blaming anyone, even post ADA finding work is tough for people with disabilities. But even though I am by no means an old fashioned woman, I know that if I'm getting up every morning to go to work and my man isn't, it'll become an issue in our relationship.

I am often contacted by men with very severe disabilities. Everybody needs love and there's no doubt about that! I truly believe there is someone out there for everyone. The truth of the matter is that I am looking for a man with a certain level of independence. We all need a bit of help sometimes and I'm always pleased to lend a hand when needed. But the guy for me must be living on his own and capable of managing personal care (eating, dressing, bathing, toileting) on his own.

Aside from disability issues, it is vital that we be compatible in the ways that make all couples successful. We should have similar beliefs, values, and levels of intelligence so we can hold a decent conversation. I love a man with a good sense of humor who can laugh at the world and at himself from time to time.