Fascilitating The Matchmaking Process: What Am I Doing About It?

I got asked similar questions twice in as many days. Once by a reader who asked "Why don't you team up with a dating site?" And once during a phone interview with a very nice writer who wants to write an article about devotees. I mentioned that I truly believe there are many more female devotees than are represented on the internet and he asked "What are you doing to spread the word to other women that the devotee community is out there?"

Seems like at least two people are looking to me to lead the charge to find more dev chicks! On its surface it's a perfectly logical thought. They are out there somewhere after all, so why not find them and bring them to dating sites so they can hook up with the men they find most attractive. Matches made and problems solved all around right? Well, I'm not sure.

It's not that I'd be unwilling to team up with dating sites. Jama, for example, seems like an awsome woman! I'm just not sure what benefit my presence would serve. Exactly what could I do that isn't already being done? Many of the devs I know already have partners and those who don't are already using the dating sites. Nothing can be done in the way of live recruitment.
There's no mass gathering spot of potentially dev females to bombard with leaflets or anything. The only other option I can think of is to somehow make the online dev community easier for women to find.

The "traditional" way that most people find the devotee community is when they go online in search of porn. I personally found it while searching for erotica which featured men with disabilities. My search led me on a detour from erotica to fetishes (fascinating to look at a list of what turns people on btw, human sexuality is wild and wacky, mine included) fetishes led to devotees. I don't think women come to the internet looking for sexual content nearly as often as men and when they do I'd bet few of them would stumble on the detours necessary to find devotees let alone other women devs. If any dating site out there wants to add an erotica which features strong handsome men with disabilities, they might stand a chance of luring more ladies directly to the source (if the writing is any good that is)! But then again it could backfire, who knows.

The long and short of it is this: I believe more women will start to show up if some internet savvy minds out there find some way to get devotee communities to show up on search engines in less "creepy" contexts.