Devorella's Female Devotee Blog

A female admirer of men who are paraplegics or amputees talks about this little known attraction and the challenging search for "true love".

Wednesday, November 02, 2005

A Random Thought And An Answer To A Comment


I sometimes chat with men who say they'd be grateful to find a woman who doesn't care what they look like as long as she accepts them. I don't think "I don't care what you look like" is really what I'd like to hear from the love of my life. My wish for everyone is that they find a partner who finds them beautiful!

Thanks to everyone who reads and or comments on my blog. I am sometimes surprised to discover how many people actually read my humble musings! I haven't posted an a couple of weeks so I thought I'd take the opportunity to give my opinion on a question amplvr3 posted to my comments.

"Why there are so many 'faker' amputees posting disability personals. What's the point since they will eventually be found out? Why waste people's time claiming to be something you are not?"

I have had occasion to talk to many many fakers unfortunately and I've come to the conclusion that they do it for a number of reasons. Let me make it plain before I start that I realize that the vast majority of people who have BIID do not engage in any of the activities I'm about to describe. That being said, I think it's safe to assume that almost all fakers have BIID this is the way they express their desire to be amputees.

I think most of the people who place personal ads are interested in what it would be like to have a relationship with someone as an amputee. They have no intention of actually meeting anyone who responds to the ad. They are just interested in what it would feel like to be an amputee in love. These folks don't seem to think very much about the other side of this equation. I've talked to many devotees who have had their hearts broken by this type of deception.

There are also some people who are fakers who get off on emotional manipulation. They are turned on by making someone feel sorry for them. Sometimes it's the thrill of conquest. It's great fun to make someone fall in love with them just to see if they can do it.

Whatever the reasons for it, I've talked to some decent men and women who've had their hearts trampled on. It's made me very guarded in all my interactions with men online and I wish I didn't have to be that way but I do.

17 Comments:

  • At 8:51 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I read some of your posts at Amputee on line and thought I would see for myself what your blog was all about.

    I am an amputee R-HPHD since 92. I'm not sure what to make of people, male or female that are attracted to others in wheelchairs, paras, quads, or amputees...

    I don't want to be judgemental, you are what you are and like what you like for your own reasons.

    As far as people lying to you and/or faking it - it's sad, but probably more common than any of us realize because the internet makes it so easy to be someone else, even for a moment. I suppose some people are really sick and/or manipulative and hopefully you will discover that early on.

    Good luck with your blog and your self-discovery process and finding someone that's right for you.

    Mario R. aka pogoboy

     
  • At 6:25 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    You say:"That being said, I think it's safe to assume that almost all fakers have BIID this is the way they express their desire to be amputees."

    As a BIID sufferer I cannot leave this uncommented. To my mind, this is nonsense. There are so many fakers, if most of them were BIID suffferers... hell, this would mean there were so many "wannabes" among us! This is just a plain wrong assumption.

    Besides, someone who *really* suffers from BIID does not pretend to be someone they are not. A real BIID sufferer will get what he or she needs and in this case these persons are actually physically disabled. Okay, we leave aside that these people do not feel like being disabled.

    So, please, before you make any assumption how a BIID sufferer may behace or not, talk to such a person. And you will see, *real* BIID sufferers can often be more understanding and more honest than any other persons, including people, physically disabled due to traumatic events.

     
  • At 6:04 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Yes some of us read your comments.I have found,fakers,scammers,liars,Dev's and many lonely people.As you gather I have tried a few web sites for disabled people like myself but have given up.A friend of mine has also given up.I don't mind DEV's as I have been contacted by a few of them.But I am not into mind games.Best of luck with your blog.

     
  • At 7:03 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Point of view.
    Some disabled people dislike DEV'S.
    But some like myself find them OK.
    A friend joined a club but was not ready to let people see her stump.
    But nothing is for nothing in this world.And some clubs gain income from selling these types of videos.
    I cant see much point on me going to conferences for disabled persons just yet.
    I have given out my photo to one site for a profile.
    Most of these sites are in the USA which is to far away for now.
    I have found most Dev's curios type people but dont live in the real world.If they realy wanted to meet one of us they would.
    You may find what you are looking for,best of luck.

     
  • At 7:13 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    It seems a shame that some Devs join our clubs with false ID's.
    It does not fool people for long.
    It only scares people away.
    Many of us live lonely lives with little hope of meeting someone.
    So are you committed to having a relationship with a disabled person?
    Many of us are fed up with b/s on the internet.
    Do you have any idea how we live?
    I suggest you do some reading on the subject before you make a move.
    I am at the stage of treating the internet as a joke and so are some of my friends.

     
  • At 7:48 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Well it happened again to me a young ablebodied female contacted me.A new member to our club full of B/S how she saw my profile and all the rest of it and left her yahoo email address wanting me to contact her.She has been deleted of our system now.These types make it hard for others.Now you see why some of us end up marrying other disabled club members.You may laugh but it seems the better option for me because I have been disabled most of my life.
    Best of luck with your blog.

     
  • At 7:01 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    After reading comments there seems to be lots of lonely people.
    The best plan is to face facts.
    Some people are attracted to people like myself a disabled male and do something about it.I have joined a few clubs on the net with the hope of finding a partner.
    My suggestion is try Ascotworlds social group as it is free.Or look at the website which gives people a better understanding.
    Dating4disabled is another free site.
    Being judgemental is not the way.
    So go for it.

     
  • At 3:42 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Personal ads seem to be a mine field for many,as some lack confidence which does not help when looking for a partner.I have tried a few websites for disabled but most are full of Americans.However I have made a few email friendships.Here I am a very single disabled male over 55,with money still looking for a partner,someone may come along.Distance is the main problem for many.So it looks like back to Ascot World you never know I may get lucky LOL.
    Good luck with the blog.

     
  • At 5:43 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Well most of us dont mind Devs because they are a fact of life.
    But please be up front from the start.However some people dont like mixing with us and just stare.
    Life is for the living is what I say.

     
  • At 4:39 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Looks like I will remain single.
    After trying a few websites thats about it.
    Now and again some females contact me asking me to be a friend via yahoo"grouply link".It would be far better to just Email in the normal way,as I said before I dont have a problem with devs/admires.People should think things through first.

     
  • At 10:53 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    People sould look at things from our side before making a comment.
    lol

     
  • At 6:57 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    It would seem others are like me.
    Single and will remain single.
    Because of some silly people on the internet.However I have made a few good friends on it.
    We are not all the same thank God!

     
  • At 12:40 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    You could check out Multirace Amp Dev Yahoo group.
    You may find what you are looking for.Best of luck with your blog.

     
  • At 8:11 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Ladies please think things through
    before contacting a disabled person.Most of us are looking for comapionship after all.

     
  • At 1:52 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Fakers seem to stuff things up for many.But we know some ladies prefer us,I have a few fans that email me now and again.So dont give up on a person that has mobility issues lol.
    bye
    Long John

     
  • At 5:55 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Look out for fakers and scammers.
    If a person does not want send a pix of themself give them the chop.

     
  • At 3:33 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Making new friends can be fun.
    Being disabled is no big deal.
    Most of us don't mind Devs,Admirers.I have been contacted by some of them and they seem ok.

     

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